I enjoy pink, certainly, but it’s not, like, my favorite color or anything. No one ever goes out of their way to give me pink stuff. And yet, all my gifts this year were nicely coordinated – pink and green.
I took it as a sign.
To me, the suspicious “coincidence” of pink and green spoke of my heart chakra, which I have been focusing on lately. Incidentally, the heart chakra is at the center of the holiday season.
In the median of a two-lane highway and a two-lane river Death pauses for breath. Where were you before this? Did you sit on a cloud, playing a harp? Maybe you sat a harp playing a cloud. I, for one, was as busy then As you are now.
In the eternal pause U-turns are required and the walls are paper thin.
We skim over coffins of coal to where they bring in the cows at dusk Over in the next county, just across the Styx. We balk at the water’s edge where the blacktop flings itself into the brush
We spin on barstools frowning at the median, you and I, Except You can cross over my time is not yet
As an example, here’s a chakra doodle I did a few months ago of all the chakras. I’ll be posting doodles for one chakra per week over the next 7 weeks, along with the others in the group. The more we post, the more we can heal together.
Why do you need a meditation coach? After all, YouTube is filled with free meditations.
Well, if you’re like most of us, focusing can be hard. It took me years to learn to get quickly into a meditative state. I logged countless hours on YouTube and dozens of smartphone apps before I could meditate on my own.
That’s where a guide comes in.
1) Meditation can be tricky without a partner
There are lots of reasons why meditation is sometimes hard. Your phone goes off, your house is noisy, you sit down to meditate and end up scrolling for social media for 2 hours instead…I’ve been there. I know.
Having a pre-arranged time to meditate with an accountability partner can make the difference between meditating and not meditating. And meditating makes all the difference.
2) Meditation promotes physical healing (not just mental and emotional)
There are dozens of mental and emotional benefits to meditation, but did you know it affects you physically, as well? This article by the NIH provides an in-depth look at the physical benefits of meditation, including a variety of health conditions like insomnia, digestive disorders, smoking cessation, and more. With a meditation coach, you can focus on your specific physical needs.
3) It’s like therapy, but more immersive
I’m all for therapy. But when your therapist can’t be there, you can gain some immediate relief by dropping into a meditative state any time, anywhere.
Personally, I receive insights into my traumas when meditating, almost like being my own therapist. These insights can be reported to a regular therapist later, of course, and your meditation coach can become a supplemental partner to help you work through some of these issues. That’s why hypnotherapy is so beneficial.
4) Recorded meditations are not one-size-fits-all
Often, in the early days of meditation, I would find myself noticing that a pre-recorded meditation gets almost to my situation, but could’ve been more suited to my individual needs. Working one-on-one with a meditation coach provides individualized assistance for your own goals. I combine meditation techniques with energy work in my own practice, including chakra work, self-Reiki, and mindfulness.
This time of year can be trying for many, even though it’s known as a season of giving and joy.
With seasonal depression, hectic schedules, work demands, holiday parties, tight budgets, debt, family drama, and a whole host of other issues all occurring at the same time, it’s no wonder that this can be a difficult time of year!
Focusing on the positive, setting firm boundaries, and taking time for self care is crucial right now, maybe moreso than ever. The Law of Attraction is out in full force, especially with so much energetic movement at this intense time.
Why not take the opportunity to focus on some abundance, while it’s so readily available? Despite the stresses of the holidays, it could be your jumping off point for an extra-abundant year in 2021.
Use these 12 abundant affirmations to keep your vibe high, even at the height of holiday stress.
The energy of joy surrounds and fills me
I am giving and receiving with joy and love
It is fun to give and receive
There is plenty to go around
I lovingly release the old to welcome in the new
The world is filled with warmth and love
I surround myself with loving friends and family
I choose to focus on goodwill
I now allow peace in my life
My body digests well and adapts to everything I eat
I am filled with enough energy to accomplish my goals
Healing the Infant Self meditations are somewhat rare, but powerful. In fact, healing my little self has made a bigger difference than any other meditation I’ve tried.
It opened my root chakra. It boosted my self-esteem. It cleansed some trauma.
That’s why, when I was asked to contribute a guided meditation for our local chapter of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention I knew exactly the topic I would choose. Listen to that recording below!
Healing The Infant Self Meditation: Relief from Depression, Low-Self Esteem, Anxiety, People-Pleasing
I love listening to meditations that have that almost poetic quality to them, so that’s what I bring to every meditation I write.
Of course, relaxation during meditation is useful all by itself. Still, I want each person to receive a little something extra.
That’s why I include just a touch of “poetry” (both literal and figurative) in my work.
In my own work as a practitioner, I combine relaxation with hypnotherapy, self-Reiki, and other techniques that allow the person to not only achieve a deep state of calm but also healing. Specifically, I combine a variety of yoga, Reiki, spiritualist, Buddhist, Law of Attraction, psychological, and other principles in each session. I always include:
a physical component (such as breathwork, a body scan, gentle yoga pose, or similar)
a mental component (visualization, imagination, etc.)
an emotional component (feeling in the moment, releasing trauma, and the like)
a spiritual component (chakra work, Zen teachings, poetry, and others).
These four pillars make up the essence of healing. I used this approach in a fun collaboration with The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention in our local chapter this past fall.
I offer virtual, personalized, guided meditations in one-on-one sessions through my website.
By phone or other virtual platform (by appointment only)
The first 10-15 minutes are reserved for discussing your intention (tell me about your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual needs)
I guide you into a deep meditative state over approximately 45 minutes
I use singing bowls, chimes, background music, or other techniques to enhance the experience
The meditation is intuitively focused on your specific needs (based on our conversation)
At the end, I hang up silently so you can remain in your relaxed state for as long as you choose
A pen-pal recently wrote me that she spent five years of her life “living as a character, not as an author,” which side-tracked her life dream of becoming a writer.
Ouch. That hits right in the solar plexus! I do that constantly.
We’re all guilty of it, but do we realize we’re giving our power away? More importantly, how much do we model our identities on idealized pictures of who we want to be?
In my book I suggested that in order to be centered and whole you need to honor your true self. I’m learning that my true self is hidden behind layers and layers of who I think I should be, influenced by family, friends, media, and yes, definitely fiction.
I love living in a fictional world; my favorite characters and authors are my idols, they’re how I make sense of what goes on around me. And that’s perfectly healthy, in my opinion.
What’s not so healthy, perhaps, is basing my entire self-concept around my ability to match some fictionalized ideal stored up in my head somewhere.
You will never, ever, ever be whole until you know and love your true self. At least, the more I’ve focused on honoring myself, the happier (and healthier) I’ve become.
I’m not talking about self-care, self-worth, or even self-esteem. Those things are all well and good, but if you’re doing them for the wrong reasons, you’re still not quite there.
About the same time I got that email from the pen-pal, a friend asked me if I’d heard Taylor Swift’s latest album. I hadn’t, so I hopped over to YouTube.
I’ve never been a huge Swiftie, but I’ve followed her off and on since she started out. It turns out I’d missed two albums, not one, and I was amazed at the change — I instantly knew Taylor was finally living her truth.
Of course, she’s made wildly successful music over the course of a stunning career, but I’m not talking about monetary gain here. For the first time, it felt like I was hearing the real Taylor, the Taylor not bogged down by expectations, doubts, fears, or any other baggage so common to the creative process. Her newer music shows circumspection, ingenuity, and maturity. The energy is sparkling, and clearly the result of a creative burst.
All of us are subject to doubts, expectations, baggage, and other obstacles to living our true self, of finding our ikigai. When someone shakes off the blocks and steps into the light, it’s apparent to everyone around them. They wield an internal power too compelling to deny: when we’re the author of our own life, success is inevitable.
My own healing work has brought me closer and closer to my own ikigai, but I’ve still got a long way to go. Patterning my life on my favorite fictional characters is fine until it takes over my own identity; following the dreams of my parents, peers, mentors, or anyone else will never make me happy.
So, thanks to my pen-pal friend, I’m going to stop living as a character in my life and start living as the author.
Over the last few years I’ve read dozens upon dozens of spiritual books. In my opinion, here’s the cream of the crop:
Anatomy of the Spirit, Caroline Myss
The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle
Energy Medicine, Donna Edens
The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz
You Are The Placebo, Joe Dispenza
If you’re looking for practical-yet-paradigm-shifting content, look no further!
Reading books such as these allows me to daily prune my sense of self, like a course-correction for my soul. Certainly my use of herbs, oils, meditation, and countless other physical changes helps; and yet, the inner healing informs the outer. The more I release old emotions, stale beliefs, psychic chains, the more my life blossoms into the kind of life I’m happy to call my own.
Dozens of other books have helped me, as well, it’s just that these have made the most profound change. Since 2020 is a time of transition, why not try them for yourself?
As a bonus, here are three of the most inspiring quotes I’ve stumbled across in my reading this year. May they bless you as we move into 2021 💜
The human mind is sick because it has a Parasite that steals its vital energy and robs it of joy. The Parasite is all those beliefs that make you suffer.
Don miguel ruiz , the mastery of love
The soul is the source of the most subtle energies of your being. Yet this subtle energy gives form to everything else about you, from your cells to your sense of self.
donna edens, energy medicine
Beyond the beauty of the external forms, there is more here: something that cannot be named, something ineffable, some deep, inner, holy essence. Whenever and wherever there is beauty, this inner essence shines through somehow.